How do you rise above something which is irritating the hell out of you?
Understanding and Forgiveness.
If we choose to hold on to something, and fight tooth and nail to retain it. Even the victory one may feel in obtaining it, is often overshadowed by the fear of losing it again.
However, If you choose to allow into your life the things that come your way, never holding on too tightly. You can live your life without fear of losing, and instead feel gratitude for what you have, when you have it and feel joy.
Monday, 8 June 2009
Sunday, 7 June 2009
Taking Ownership
Take ownership of your self, your inner self, your outer self, your issues, your problems.... and allow others to take ownership of themselves, their issues and their problems...
Other peoples issues are not yours unless you allow them to be.
Other peoples issues are not yours unless you allow them to be.
Friday, 5 June 2009
Fear
When we are afraid of something, it keeps us caged.
Imagine if you like, your fear (spiders/flying/loss/change) is standing outside of your front door.
You would not be able to leave the house, you would become anxious, afraid every time the door bell rang...
would you close the windows?
would you secure the doors?
would you close the curtains?
It's true we have to face our fears - and in the case of spiders/snakes/flying etc... we know we can take quite tangible action, become informed to overcome them.
What happens if your fear is emotionally based?
You can't conquer a fear of the opposite sex by throwing yourself at them..
You can't conquer a fear of inadequacy by constantly striving to be the best...
It is NOT possible to conquer emotional fear through physical action or physical inaction.
Emotional fears and issues scar us deep inside.
Emotional fears are based on an experience in our past.
The only way to conquer an emotionally based fear is by changing your emotional responses.
The only way to change your emotional responses is by fully understanding your current responses.
The only way to fully understand your current response is by seeking back into your past to find the trigger, the cause, the first time you responded in that way...
We are creatures of habit are we not....
The only way we can change our emotional response is by choosing not to let our past have any further affect on us, we have to emotionally heal our past... we have to let it go, with forgiveness, with understanding, and with love.
Imagine if you like, your fear (spiders/flying/loss/change) is standing outside of your front door.
You would not be able to leave the house, you would become anxious, afraid every time the door bell rang...
would you close the windows?
would you secure the doors?
would you close the curtains?
It's true we have to face our fears - and in the case of spiders/snakes/flying etc... we know we can take quite tangible action, become informed to overcome them.
What happens if your fear is emotionally based?
You can't conquer a fear of the opposite sex by throwing yourself at them..
You can't conquer a fear of inadequacy by constantly striving to be the best...
It is NOT possible to conquer emotional fear through physical action or physical inaction.
Emotional fears and issues scar us deep inside.
Emotional fears are based on an experience in our past.
The only way to conquer an emotionally based fear is by changing your emotional responses.
The only way to change your emotional responses is by fully understanding your current responses.
The only way to fully understand your current response is by seeking back into your past to find the trigger, the cause, the first time you responded in that way...
We are creatures of habit are we not....
The only way we can change our emotional response is by choosing not to let our past have any further affect on us, we have to emotionally heal our past... we have to let it go, with forgiveness, with understanding, and with love.
Thursday, 4 June 2009
Worry
We should learn to worry a little less, do our best, be clear in what we want and don't want - but really, we should try to worry a little less.
Relax.
If something is really worrying you, cut to the chase.
Figure out WHY.
Know what is within your limits to do something about.
Know what is without.
Know what you will do, if the worst occurs.
Know what you will do, if the best occurs.
Then let it go - until.. either or other occurs.
If we hold on too tightly to a particular outcome, we are not acting in our own best interests...
Wasting time and precious energy worrying... is it really worth it?
Relax.
If something is really worrying you, cut to the chase.
Figure out WHY.
Know what is within your limits to do something about.
Know what is without.
Know what you will do, if the worst occurs.
Know what you will do, if the best occurs.
Then let it go - until.. either or other occurs.
If we hold on too tightly to a particular outcome, we are not acting in our own best interests...
Wasting time and precious energy worrying... is it really worth it?
Wednesday, 3 June 2009
Letting it all go
And so, let us be reminded - it is not just about understanding our triggers, but infact about truly letting go of all those things which we are working through.
If you are the way you are because of an event which occured to you as a child, isn't it about time you realised that you are not that child anymore.
You are an adult, and as such have the ability to make informed decisions... those decisions can include deciding not to react as you are a child, but instead act - as the adult you are.
Harsh words indeed, yet as an adult - one must be able to see the sense in it.There is so much talk of the 'inner child' and I'm not sure that people really grasp what it is about. They claim that they are healing the inner child, but are they?
Are they really healing it?
Are they truly able to let go of those issues...?
Recognising our traits is one thing, going back and blaming those traits on an event in your childhood is totally acceptable - to start with.But we must not continue to blame. We must understand that we are not that child anymore, that events were as they were - and they were that way for a very good reason.
It is one thing to say 'I understand', it is another to say 'I have learnt', but how many people can truly step forward and say - that NO longer has any influence over me at all.
AT ALL.
If you are the way you are because of an event which occured to you as a child, isn't it about time you realised that you are not that child anymore.
You are an adult, and as such have the ability to make informed decisions... those decisions can include deciding not to react as you are a child, but instead act - as the adult you are.
Harsh words indeed, yet as an adult - one must be able to see the sense in it.There is so much talk of the 'inner child' and I'm not sure that people really grasp what it is about. They claim that they are healing the inner child, but are they?
Are they really healing it?
Are they truly able to let go of those issues...?
Recognising our traits is one thing, going back and blaming those traits on an event in your childhood is totally acceptable - to start with.But we must not continue to blame. We must understand that we are not that child anymore, that events were as they were - and they were that way for a very good reason.
It is one thing to say 'I understand', it is another to say 'I have learnt', but how many people can truly step forward and say - that NO longer has any influence over me at all.
AT ALL.
Tuesday, 2 June 2009
Change
We all have to deal with changes in life, we get older, move home, change jobs, lose our jobs, lose loved ones, we get sick, we get stuck...
How we adapt to change, how we react to change will determine how smoothly that transition occurs.
How we adapt to change, how we react to change will determine how smoothly that transition occurs.
Monday, 1 June 2009
In the Flow
Going with the flow means we have to stop harbouring fears, we have to drop anxiety, we have to loose all our personal inhibitions and start doing as we feel.
When we start doing as we feel, something amazing happens.
We not only FEEL better, as in happier, more confident and more relaxed. But we allow more co-incidences into our lives...
...it's almost as though things are magnetically drawn to us.
This is because we are in the flow.
When we start doing as we feel, something amazing happens.
We not only FEEL better, as in happier, more confident and more relaxed. But we allow more co-incidences into our lives...
...it's almost as though things are magnetically drawn to us.
This is because we are in the flow.
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