Friday, 29 May 2009


We can not change other people’s perceptions of ourselves unless they want it to change, words and actions don’t always change anything.

People will see what they choose to see, they won’t see the good if that good brings them close to their fears.
They will instead distort reality in order to protect themselves from the truth. They create expectations and hopes and cling to them, to protect themselves, then crash with rage, despair and desperation when they can’t get what they want and get pushed closer to their fears.

There are times when we need to defend who we are, and times when we need to put people straight with the facts of events and situations.
There are other times when we simply need to acknowledge WHY we want to defend and put things right..
I guess all I’m trying to say is… We all want to be looked well upon, but at the end of the day – we are not judged by other people, we are judged by – the universal laws…god... ourselves...

Having trust that those conceited and ignorant people will be dealt with under the same laws of life (Karma) in time, should be enough to remove the need to waste energy trying to defend our honor to the cat. (By cat I mean, sometimes you should defend your honor, to those who matter).

The other thing is, if you don’t waste energy on those kind of things, it frees up energy for use on other more positive things.

Saturday, 16 May 2009

Why do you deny yourself happiness?

When you are happy and fulfilled you are capable and feel capable of taking on the world... think back to some point in your past when you felt like that. When you felt that everything was perfect, you loved your job, home and life in general... everyone has one point in their lives when they felt like that, even for a split second... But that feeling of being on top of things is what you need to find in your life, should it be that you are not 100% happy with it.

Things will not go right for you unless you take steps to make them right.

Be honest with yourself, be honest with others and allow every step you take be on sure, sound footing.

You can choose the downward spiral, or you can choose to life yourself up to new heights.

Thursday, 14 May 2009


If you can, you should try to avoid expecting something in the first place.

This isn't always possible as most of the time its almost a sub-conscious thing. So, when you realise your expectations have been dashed, or realise that you DO have an expectation work through WHY you are feeling the way you are feeling.

Why you expect/expected it.

And then look to why you are letting it affect you in the way that it is.

If you can do this, hopefully you'll find that sense of balance again.

Monday, 11 May 2009


The only way to abolish fear is to face it.

Only by facing it, can you truly see that there was nothing to fear.

Fear disables constructive and logical thoughts. It isn't possible to 'do what you should do, or want to do' whilst fear is attached to the actions you must undertake.

The only thing to fear is fear itself.

When you are afraid, you need to find the courage to do what you want to do, when the only thing stopping you is your fear.

Your fear is stopping you from feeling at peace with yourself.

Your fear is stopping you from having what your heart desires.

Your fear is preventing you from being the best person you can be.

Fears manifest at all kinds of levels, but involves a physical limitation and an emotional limitation.

The fear is an emotional limitation, which prevents you from doing something physically.

Facing your fear means you have to stop running from what you truly want, and stop, turn and actually see past the fear to what COULD be. How losing the fear will stop you hiding from yourself and actually start opening up doors for you, and help you to feel better about yourself.

For further reading on fears and how to deal with them, please click the link below.

Saturday, 2 May 2009


It's important to forgive other people, otherwise you hold some form of resentment inside. Holding this resentment inside forms a defence of sorts, within you, meaning when faced with similar circumstances, you'll react from abase source of negativity.
This resentment means you'll face these circumstances with different people, judging them based on your past. This resentments also means you'll face different circumstances with the same people, judging them on the actions from the original circumstance.

Forgiving someone for acting in a way which has hurt you, upset you, embarrassed you, shamed you, blamed you, angered you etc. Remember; these emotions are YOURS. You have the sole ability to work through the attached emotions and by doing so, forgiving someone will become a whole lot easier.

But because we hold on to the hurt; the pain; the anger - it is impossible to forgive.