Tuesday, 29 September 2009

Emotional Confidence

I have been reading Emotional Confidence by Gael Lindenfield, and I simply must quote

"Turn your focus away from the person or thing that hurt you, and back onto yourself and your own emotional health"

Her website may be found at http://www.gael-lindenfield.com/

And you can purchase Emotional Confidence, at Amazon, by clicking on the link below.
Emotional Confidence: Simple Steps to Understanding and Controlling Your Feelings

Monday, 28 September 2009

Be creative

I recently read on a recent Crimson Circle Shroud, ( http://www.crimsoncircle.com/ ) About the importance of being creative.

When we are creative, we allow our energy to flow. Being creative can help us to feel better, especially when we have finished. Sitting back and viewing what you have made, helps to give us a sense of achievement.
Being creative helps us to feel satisfied, allows us to express ourselves and helps us to unwind.

I know that some people struggle to be creative. Being good at, or enjoying painting, drawing, singing or playing an instrument doesn't come as a birth right to many people.
Yet, there are many other ways that you can be creative.

for example;
- cooking
- gardening
- poetry
- writing
- building a website
- re-decorating your home
- woodwork
- airfix type models
- crafts, papermaking, quilling, wood-burning
- sewing & knitting

Being creative is about allowing ourselves to relax, it's about building or making something which expresses who you are. It doesn't have to be anything big, it doesn't have to be something that requires a lot of expensive outlay.

If I recall the shroud mentioned to try to something creative every single day. Maybe that may be a little too much for some people, but prahaps, something creative for at least an hour a week would be a good start - mind, I do believe that once you get started, you'll be wanting to do it for longer!

Sunday, 27 September 2009


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Saturday, 26 September 2009


Duality: Ii is s the two seperate parts of ourselves, that have a clear distinction, yet when we find it difficult to live our daily lives in either fully.
One part of us is the 'old' us. The person we were BEFORE we saw light or glimmer in being a more spiritual person.
The other part of us is the 'new' us. The person we want to be, more spiritual, more in balance and more at peace.

Finding ourselves getting angry, or upset, or selfish, or controlling. Then standing back and thinking "What am I doing!"

Duality is normal. Duality is a process, a part of us which is learning to live in a new way. Whenever there is change, it takes time to adjust.

Let's take a simple example. For years you have put the sugar bowl next to the kettle. After a tidy up and re-arrangement, the sugar bowl now resides on the shelf. For days after moving it, you instinctively reach for the sugar bowl, expecting it to be by the kettle. For a second you think "Where is it" and then you remember it's new home on the shelf.
Eventually, you will instinctively reach for it on the shelf. But it takes time.

Duality also arises when we mix with the general public, we are faced with situations and circumstance which requires us to 'fit in' with whatever is going on around us. At the grocery store, the post office, the workplace... We all have to find a balance, a way to handle these places and situations in the best way that we can. But often we find, especially at the start of a spiritual journey; that we find ourselves slipping back into the 'old' us, in order to get by, because the 'new' us simply doesn't know how to respond, or maintain itself surrounded by old influences.

Rememeber, that's normal too.
Change doesn't come naturally, change needs to be learnt, handled and needs to become the 'norm'. This takes time. And one step at a time is fine.

Friday, 25 September 2009

Chakra / Back Ache

About 10 years before I 'learnt' about Chakras. I used to have a terrible lower back ache. (Situated at the back of my Sacral Chakra). Some days it was terribly painful, other days it was like there was no problem at all. I recall going to the doctors, having it looked at by a specialist, and had x-rays - yet no problem could be found. No problem, yet the back pain continued, intermitantly for many years.

As I started working on my chakras, eventually I realised that I should fix my back. After a few months of intense soul searching, understanding myself and my issues around the sacral chakra, finding ways to resolve the issues and chakra energy work/visualisation.
The back pain never returned.
Along with that, I noticed that I never EVER got (sorry guys) PMT. Any women out there that suffer very badly with PMT - please, I do recommend that you look back in your life for any old issues that relate to the sacral chakra.

When in balance the sacral chakra offers us; Self Respect, self esteem, confidence in our abilities, a sense of freedom.

Imbalances are caused by restriction, Withdrawn behaviour/wanting to withdraw, destructive feelings, dependency, waiting, Low self esteem, low sex drive, difficulty communicating with other people (particularly the opposite sex). Denial of pleasure (not just sex), Martyr behaviour.

If you back ache is originating here, are you are likely having issues which involve give or take'

Further reading on the Sacral Chakra may be found by clicking the link below.

Friday, 14 August 2009

Buddha's Anger Quote

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.


Thursday, 13 August 2009


Why project your anger onto someone else? Especially an innocent family member or work colleague... You will actually feel better by taking time out to VOICE your anger with calm words.

By shouting 'GO AWAY, LEAVE ME ALONE' you are not voicing your anger. you are PROJECTING your anger and allowing other people to pick it up and get angry too...

By taking a deep breath, downing tools for a minute and saying 'I'm sorry for shouting, I'm really worried about work and I cant seem to concentrate, I didn't mean to snap' You are explaining your actions, voicing out your concerns and will be more able to find a viable solution, and maybe even a helping hand.

Remove anger by knowing that everything will work out for the best one way or another.

Remove Anger by accepting situations.

Shouting at someone will NOT improve how YOU are feeling. It will NOT automatically trigger the response YOU want from them (of course it 'may', but you can't guarantee it). And if you do NOT get the response you wanted, shouting and getting angry AT someone, will actually make you feel worse.

Please see full article at

Monday, 10 August 2009

I am grateful ( Affirmations)

I am grateful that I have use of my eyes to see
I am grateful that I have use of my hands to touch
I am grateful that I have use of my nose to smell the flowers, fresh baked bread...
I am grateful that I had food to eat
I am grateful that I had money to pay my way
I am grateful that my friend rang
I am grateful that I have friends
I am grateful that I have family
I am grateful that I have a son/daughter/partner/brother/sister whom I love
I am grateful that the sun shone
I am grateful that the rains watered the earth
I am grateful that the traffic was clear on the way to work
I am grateful that today I smiled
I am grateful that today I laughed
I am grateful that I have a home to live in
I am grateful that I have light in my room
I am grateful for my material items - even the ones I rarely use

Friday, 7 August 2009


When we are faced with someone whom is in an aggressive mood, our instant reaction is to mirror them and become angry and aggressive back. It requires a great deal of self control in order to give back peace and calm.

Aggression is based in anger and thus based on fear. Be that it is rising up within you or that you are facing aggressive behaviour. There is always an underlying reason for the fury of feelings which are arising up within.

Aggression is seperate from anger, as we can feel anger as an emotion without expressing it. Aggression is the act of projecting that anger in any form, be that verbal aggression or physical aggression.

Please visit the link below to read more on Dealing with Aggression

Thursday, 6 August 2009


How can you blame someone for doing what they thought was right ?
It's rare people do things knowing they are wrong, and when they do - there is usually a secondary reason for it.. For example, if someone intentionally tells a secret, knowing it will hurt - they have done so for THEIR reasons. And then you would need to ask yourself WHY you wanted it to remain a secret. (Things are always better out in the open).

How can you blame someone for being themselves?
Does it simply boil down to a feeling of jealousy or inadequacy that you are not them? or is it that you are angry that they aren't like you?

Are you are blaming someone for doing or not doing something how YOU would do it ?

Saturday, 1 August 2009


At certain times in our lives we find ourselves having trouble moving on, getting over or forgiving. Each of these three problems require a level of acceptance, in order to move forward in our lives.

When we have trouble accepting something; it is because things are not how we want them to be.

Our ego, our driving force, is enraged.
Enraged, because we want things a certain way. Any other way, simply won't do. It's almost like a small child within you shouting "NO!", and whilst you don't normally physically act like a child and stamp your feet. When you have trouble accepting something you still get angry inside.

It is important that you understand that it is your 'life blood' or 'driving force' or 'Ego', that is struggling with accepting, those things which you know you have to accept.

Accepting, is quite simply calming your Ego.

Further reading at : http://www.inner-truth.net/emotions/acceptance.html

Monday, 27 July 2009

Making Decisions

"If you ever feel stuck, as if your life isn't moving along smoothly, then you need to make some clear decisions about what you want."
Quote Doreen Virtue Ph.D

Sometimes we just don't know what to do for the best; other times we simply allow ourselves to be carried along, without making any real choices as to the direction we are heading.

If you are having problems making a decision, then you create anxiety, worry, stress, frustration and confusion.

Once you have made the right decision. Things become SO much easier. Thus releasing any anxiety, reducing stress and minimising worry. Once the right decision has been made, frustration and confusion clear.

Further reading on deicision making may be found by clicking the link below

Sunday, 26 July 2009

Inner Truth Directory

Just a quick plug for the Inner Truth UK Healing & Therapies directory.
Listing alternative and holistic therapy practitioners, healers, psychics, instructors (from yoga to firewalking) within the United Kingdom


Friday, 17 July 2009


"The strength of your doubts is a reflection of the strength of your potential." Eric Francis

How true, when we doubt something, the doubt is the opposite of what we want.. hence a reflection. What do you think you can't do... see the reflection, and know what it means.

Monday, 13 July 2009

Emotional Courage

Emotional courage is the ability to face fears, painful emotional and physical situations, dangerous situations, uncertainty and intimidation.

To find courage within us, means we have to seek a true understanding of our motives within ourselves. This understanding has to embody a KNOWING that regardless, you WILL see things through.

It could be that your courage falters in face of your fears, and you know you must over come your fears to achieve the things you want to achieve.

It could be that your courage falters because you are not completely sure.

Even when we step blind into the unknown, courage comes from knowing completely that you have to leave the point you are currently stood in; in order to find better.

Wednesday, 1 July 2009


Many people whom suffer from Anxiety and Anxiety attacks may find the following activities worthwhile. They will aid your breathing techniques and help you to find a sense of calm.

Tai Chi
Classes are carried out in most locations, to find classes and centres that can teach you meditation, pilates, tai chi and yoga.

Alternatively you can purchase books, cds and dvds that can help to teach you the basics. Please note that you will get most benefit from a professional, as they will be able to correct your mistakes and won't push you further than you can manage.

The following types of therapy may help you overcome Anxiety.

The professional guidance of a trainer counsellor or psychotherapist can help you to work through the core issues which are causing your anxiety, in a relaxed and friendly manner.

Massage can help you to relax, thus will lower your anxiety levels. Although it may not treat the anxiety at the core, it will certainly have an uplifting effect on your self.

Hypnotherapy can also help you work through your core issues in regards to Anxiety.

For practitioners in the UK, please visit

Monday, 29 June 2009


It's not very often that I get ill, very rare that I catch any cold that is going around. There has been a lot of releasing over the past week and I can feel the effects...

There is a lot to be thankful for regular medicine, even though personally, I prefer to leave that as a very last resort - conventional medicine does have it's place for convenience and I guess we live in a time where we want everything now.

Spiritual clearing and releasing does take time and it does require one to be undistracted. As a mother; (and as any mother knows) this isn't always possible!

But do remember, it doesn't sell you out to take medicine or pain killers - our roles in families and in our work do matter; and it also isn't wrong to stay in bed all day if you need to recover.

Sunday, 28 June 2009

Helping others

It's human nature to want to help other people. When you do so, and it is appreicated, it can make us feel useful or wanted. When you do so and it is not appreicated, it can make us feel used. Remember please; that when you do something for anyone, you should do it not for recognition or for any good feelings that may arise. You should do it because you want to. That way, if it is appreicated or not, you can still feel good about yourself.

Sometimes we try to help people, and they can abuse our nature. If you feel this at any point, it is important to assess why you wish to help them. And also, assess with your own intution if they really DO want help, or if they just want someone to rely on and do the hard work for them.

Saturday, 27 June 2009


We all have issues, feel self concious, or even over confident. Everything we do, we do for reasons, mostly not out of enjoyment of our OWN true self.

Play, sing, laugh, enjoy more and celebrate more... This is gratitude of living. Of being alive. It also helps make you feel better too.

Integration of this throughout an entire day will only become exhausting if you try too hard. If you listen to your 'inner' self, your intution, you will do as you feel.... which, will say 'slow down', calm down - not for any particular reason, other THAN.

Friday, 26 June 2009


I've always been a great believer in following my heart, it leads me to expereince good things, but along the way - in the past - it has led me to experience people and situations who think or require logical thought. In these instances, you see - at times - that fear in some aspect holds things back.

Being afraid to let go of something, being afraid for yourself, or for others. When you hold back because you've been burnt in the past, or for any reason - you can not follow your heart.

Thursday, 25 June 2009


There are many beautiful things in life, and sharing the company of those you care about is truly one of them. When there is lightness in your hearts and when there are no immediate pressing worries or concerns, life can feel so beautiful.

So after a beautiful day, I ask myself; why do we as human beings allow ourselves to become so bogged down with things that we simply are unable to enjoy each day we have.

Is that worry or concern or niggle that you have worth ruining the potential of the beautiful day ahead... any day, every day has the potential to be beautiful.

It is indeed, your choice how you greet your day.
Life is indeed short, and each day, really is for living.
Don't waste a minute.

Wednesday, 24 June 2009


Words, they mean so much. But actions speak far louder.

Doesn't matter if you say something, it's what you do about it which counts.

Saturday, 20 June 2009

Enough already!

Eventually enough has to be enough.

You can put up with some annoyances for a length of time, you can avoid change for a certain length of time, you can adhere to rules and restrictions which you don't really agree with - for a certain length of time.

Eventually though, eventually - one gets to the point where they have had enough.

It's not always when other people say - crickey haven't you had enough yet - it's far more personal

Friday, 19 June 2009


There is no shame in adapting or changing your belief system, by this, I mean if you always do things a certain way, who can say that a few improvements can't be made.

This is not only relevent in practical things, but is incredibly relevent in our thought processes and beliefs, ideas, passions and fears.

Things change, lifestyles change - and along the way WE must change and adapt as well

Thursday, 18 June 2009


We all have to deal with changes in life, we get older, move home, change jobs, lose our jobs, lose loved ones, we get sick, we get stuck...
How we adapt to change, how we react to change will determine how smoothly that transition occurs.

If we resist change, we moan, we grumble, we find no good.

If we embrace change, we find hope, we can look forward.

Wednesday, 17 June 2009


What happens when you keep filling up a drawer - eventually it fills up and it overflows...

This results in some kind of chaos. Which needs to be sorted out.

In most homes, there is a drawer or a cupboard - where everything that doesn't have a home gets chucked in. Eventually that drawer fills up and you go to clear it out.
When you do so; you may find things that you have no idea WHY you kept; and some things that you still want to keep even though you haven't used it in over a year.
So the drawer doesn't really get cleared out... maybe a few things get binned.. but that drawer is always the home for 'everything else'.

The same thing occurs with our emotions; we keep them inside, keep our opinions and thoughts to ourselves - not always out of secrecy; but often because we just don't know how to address them... and sometimes we aren't even sure if they are problems.

So we push them aside. We don't deal with them - then eventually, we are full to the brim and slighest little thing can annoy us or upset us

If you are aware this is occuring, it is imperitive to speak out. To say what you need to say. Even if you don't have a solution; communicating - even in a diary, can help immensely to 'tidy up the drawer'.

Thursday, 11 June 2009

Under pressure

As always, there are a million and one things to be done.
It's common to feel quite swamped by it all.
Not knowing where to start, being unable to prioritise - as everything is just as urgent.

When there is too much to do, the really important thing is to ensure that you make a start somewhere.
Give 100% of your thoughts to completing that single task - and then move on to the next task.
Otherwise, there is a liklihood of becoming stressed, anxious, doing a sub-standard job etc..

Do your best, but do not put your health at risk.
It is just as important to be practical about your need to take a break, to rest, to laugh, to exercise...
So, do ensure that even when there is so much to do that you really can't afford to take a break... remember that if you don't, eventually your body will retaliate... maybe you'll oversleep, maybe you'll get a headache, or maybe you'll catch a cold...

And also bear in mind, that if you are feeling good - you will do a far better job than if you are feeling under pressure...

Wednesday, 10 June 2009


Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.


Monday, 8 June 2009

Rising above it all

How do you rise above something which is irritating the hell out of you?

Understanding and Forgiveness.

If we choose to hold on to something, and fight tooth and nail to retain it. Even the victory one may feel in obtaining it, is often overshadowed by the fear of losing it again.

However, If you choose to allow into your life the things that come your way, never holding on too tightly. You can live your life without fear of losing, and instead feel gratitude for what you have, when you have it and feel joy.

Sunday, 7 June 2009

Taking Ownership

Take ownership of your self, your inner self, your outer self, your issues, your problems.... and allow others to take ownership of themselves, their issues and their problems...

Other peoples issues are not yours unless you allow them to be.

Friday, 5 June 2009


When we are afraid of something, it keeps us caged.

Imagine if you like, your fear (spiders/flying/loss/change) is standing outside of your front door.
You would not be able to leave the house, you would become anxious, afraid every time the door bell rang...
would you close the windows?
would you secure the doors?
would you close the curtains?

It's true we have to face our fears - and in the case of spiders/snakes/flying etc... we know we can take quite tangible action, become informed to overcome them.
What happens if your fear is emotionally based?

You can't conquer a fear of the opposite sex by throwing yourself at them..
You can't conquer a fear of inadequacy by constantly striving to be the best...

It is NOT possible to conquer emotional fear through physical action or physical inaction.

Emotional fears and issues scar us deep inside.
Emotional fears are based on an experience in our past.
The only way to conquer an emotionally based fear is by changing your emotional responses.
The only way to change your emotional responses is by fully understanding your current responses.
The only way to fully understand your current response is by seeking back into your past to find the trigger, the cause, the first time you responded in that way...

We are creatures of habit are we not....
The only way we can change our emotional response is by choosing not to let our past have any further affect on us, we have to emotionally heal our past... we have to let it go, with forgiveness, with understanding, and with love.

Thursday, 4 June 2009


We should learn to worry a little less, do our best, be clear in what we want and don't want - but really, we should try to worry a little less.


If something is really worrying you, cut to the chase.
Figure out WHY.
Know what is within your limits to do something about.
Know what is without.
Know what you will do, if the worst occurs.
Know what you will do, if the best occurs.

Then let it go - until.. either or other occurs.

If we hold on too tightly to a particular outcome, we are not acting in our own best interests...
Wasting time and precious energy worrying... is it really worth it?

Wednesday, 3 June 2009

Letting it all go

And so, let us be reminded - it is not just about understanding our triggers, but infact about truly letting go of all those things which we are working through.

If you are the way you are because of an event which occured to you as a child, isn't it about time you realised that you are not that child anymore.
You are an adult, and as such have the ability to make informed decisions... those decisions can include deciding not to react as you are a child, but instead act - as the adult you are.

Harsh words indeed, yet as an adult - one must be able to see the sense in it.There is so much talk of the 'inner child' and I'm not sure that people really grasp what it is about. They claim that they are healing the inner child, but are they?
Are they really healing it?
Are they truly able to let go of those issues...?

Recognising our traits is one thing, going back and blaming those traits on an event in your childhood is totally acceptable - to start with.But we must not continue to blame. We must understand that we are not that child anymore, that events were as they were - and they were that way for a very good reason.

It is one thing to say 'I understand', it is another to say 'I have learnt', but how many people can truly step forward and say - that NO longer has any influence over me at all.


Tuesday, 2 June 2009


We all have to deal with changes in life, we get older, move home, change jobs, lose our jobs, lose loved ones, we get sick, we get stuck...

How we adapt to change, how we react to change will determine how smoothly that transition occurs.

Monday, 1 June 2009

In the Flow

Going with the flow means we have to stop harbouring fears, we have to drop anxiety, we have to loose all our personal inhibitions and start doing as we feel.

When we start doing as we feel, something amazing happens.
We not only FEEL better, as in happier, more confident and more relaxed. But we allow more co-incidences into our lives...
...it's almost as though things are magnetically drawn to us.

This is because we are in the flow.

Friday, 29 May 2009


We can not change other people’s perceptions of ourselves unless they want it to change, words and actions don’t always change anything.

People will see what they choose to see, they won’t see the good if that good brings them close to their fears.
They will instead distort reality in order to protect themselves from the truth. They create expectations and hopes and cling to them, to protect themselves, then crash with rage, despair and desperation when they can’t get what they want and get pushed closer to their fears.

There are times when we need to defend who we are, and times when we need to put people straight with the facts of events and situations.
There are other times when we simply need to acknowledge WHY we want to defend and put things right..
I guess all I’m trying to say is… We all want to be looked well upon, but at the end of the day – we are not judged by other people, we are judged by – the universal laws…god... ourselves...

Having trust that those conceited and ignorant people will be dealt with under the same laws of life (Karma) in time, should be enough to remove the need to waste energy trying to defend our honor to the cat. (By cat I mean, sometimes you should defend your honor, to those who matter).

The other thing is, if you don’t waste energy on those kind of things, it frees up energy for use on other more positive things.

Saturday, 16 May 2009

Why do you deny yourself happiness?

When you are happy and fulfilled you are capable and feel capable of taking on the world... think back to some point in your past when you felt like that. When you felt that everything was perfect, you loved your job, home and life in general... everyone has one point in their lives when they felt like that, even for a split second... But that feeling of being on top of things is what you need to find in your life, should it be that you are not 100% happy with it.

Things will not go right for you unless you take steps to make them right.

Be honest with yourself, be honest with others and allow every step you take be on sure, sound footing.

You can choose the downward spiral, or you can choose to life yourself up to new heights.

Thursday, 14 May 2009


If you can, you should try to avoid expecting something in the first place.

This isn't always possible as most of the time its almost a sub-conscious thing. So, when you realise your expectations have been dashed, or realise that you DO have an expectation work through WHY you are feeling the way you are feeling.

Why you expect/expected it.

And then look to why you are letting it affect you in the way that it is.

If you can do this, hopefully you'll find that sense of balance again.

Monday, 11 May 2009


The only way to abolish fear is to face it.

Only by facing it, can you truly see that there was nothing to fear.

Fear disables constructive and logical thoughts. It isn't possible to 'do what you should do, or want to do' whilst fear is attached to the actions you must undertake.

The only thing to fear is fear itself.

When you are afraid, you need to find the courage to do what you want to do, when the only thing stopping you is your fear.

Your fear is stopping you from feeling at peace with yourself.

Your fear is stopping you from having what your heart desires.

Your fear is preventing you from being the best person you can be.

Fears manifest at all kinds of levels, but involves a physical limitation and an emotional limitation.

The fear is an emotional limitation, which prevents you from doing something physically.

Facing your fear means you have to stop running from what you truly want, and stop, turn and actually see past the fear to what COULD be. How losing the fear will stop you hiding from yourself and actually start opening up doors for you, and help you to feel better about yourself.

For further reading on fears and how to deal with them, please click the link below.

Saturday, 2 May 2009


It's important to forgive other people, otherwise you hold some form of resentment inside. Holding this resentment inside forms a defence of sorts, within you, meaning when faced with similar circumstances, you'll react from abase source of negativity.
This resentment means you'll face these circumstances with different people, judging them based on your past. This resentments also means you'll face different circumstances with the same people, judging them on the actions from the original circumstance.

Forgiving someone for acting in a way which has hurt you, upset you, embarrassed you, shamed you, blamed you, angered you etc. Remember; these emotions are YOURS. You have the sole ability to work through the attached emotions and by doing so, forgiving someone will become a whole lot easier.

But because we hold on to the hurt; the pain; the anger - it is impossible to forgive.