Friday, 14 August 2009

Buddha's Anger Quote

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.


Thursday, 13 August 2009


Why project your anger onto someone else? Especially an innocent family member or work colleague... You will actually feel better by taking time out to VOICE your anger with calm words.

By shouting 'GO AWAY, LEAVE ME ALONE' you are not voicing your anger. you are PROJECTING your anger and allowing other people to pick it up and get angry too...

By taking a deep breath, downing tools for a minute and saying 'I'm sorry for shouting, I'm really worried about work and I cant seem to concentrate, I didn't mean to snap' You are explaining your actions, voicing out your concerns and will be more able to find a viable solution, and maybe even a helping hand.

Remove anger by knowing that everything will work out for the best one way or another.

Remove Anger by accepting situations.

Shouting at someone will NOT improve how YOU are feeling. It will NOT automatically trigger the response YOU want from them (of course it 'may', but you can't guarantee it). And if you do NOT get the response you wanted, shouting and getting angry AT someone, will actually make you feel worse.

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Monday, 10 August 2009

I am grateful ( Affirmations)

I am grateful that I have use of my eyes to see
I am grateful that I have use of my hands to touch
I am grateful that I have use of my nose to smell the flowers, fresh baked bread...
I am grateful that I had food to eat
I am grateful that I had money to pay my way
I am grateful that my friend rang
I am grateful that I have friends
I am grateful that I have family
I am grateful that I have a son/daughter/partner/brother/sister whom I love
I am grateful that the sun shone
I am grateful that the rains watered the earth
I am grateful that the traffic was clear on the way to work
I am grateful that today I smiled
I am grateful that today I laughed
I am grateful that I have a home to live in
I am grateful that I have light in my room
I am grateful for my material items - even the ones I rarely use

Friday, 7 August 2009


When we are faced with someone whom is in an aggressive mood, our instant reaction is to mirror them and become angry and aggressive back. It requires a great deal of self control in order to give back peace and calm.

Aggression is based in anger and thus based on fear. Be that it is rising up within you or that you are facing aggressive behaviour. There is always an underlying reason for the fury of feelings which are arising up within.

Aggression is seperate from anger, as we can feel anger as an emotion without expressing it. Aggression is the act of projecting that anger in any form, be that verbal aggression or physical aggression.

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Thursday, 6 August 2009


How can you blame someone for doing what they thought was right ?
It's rare people do things knowing they are wrong, and when they do - there is usually a secondary reason for it.. For example, if someone intentionally tells a secret, knowing it will hurt - they have done so for THEIR reasons. And then you would need to ask yourself WHY you wanted it to remain a secret. (Things are always better out in the open).

How can you blame someone for being themselves?
Does it simply boil down to a feeling of jealousy or inadequacy that you are not them? or is it that you are angry that they aren't like you?

Are you are blaming someone for doing or not doing something how YOU would do it ?

Saturday, 1 August 2009


At certain times in our lives we find ourselves having trouble moving on, getting over or forgiving. Each of these three problems require a level of acceptance, in order to move forward in our lives.

When we have trouble accepting something; it is because things are not how we want them to be.

Our ego, our driving force, is enraged.
Enraged, because we want things a certain way. Any other way, simply won't do. It's almost like a small child within you shouting "NO!", and whilst you don't normally physically act like a child and stamp your feet. When you have trouble accepting something you still get angry inside.

It is important that you understand that it is your 'life blood' or 'driving force' or 'Ego', that is struggling with accepting, those things which you know you have to accept.

Accepting, is quite simply calming your Ego.

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