I have been reading Emotional Confidence by Gael Lindenfield, and I simply must quote
"Turn your focus away from the person or thing that hurt you, and back onto yourself and your own emotional health"
Her website may be found at http://www.gael-lindenfield.com/
And you can purchase Emotional Confidence, at Amazon, by clicking on the link below.
Emotional Confidence: Simple Steps to Understanding and Controlling Your Feelings